I got my period while peeing on a stick this morning. Again.
It’s not the disappointment of this particular month that bothers me.
It’s not the clicking forward of another month in the potential due date calendar in my mind. (We are now at late April, earliest.)
It’s not the increasing age difference between Gatito and a potential sibling. (Now at 3 years, 5 months, minimum. I actaully like the idea of getting more alone time with Gatito while he’s little and a more independent Gatito giving me a chance to really enjoy a second babyhood. Not to mention not having to pay two college tuitions at the same time.)
It’s the creeping little worry that maybe something is wrong (along with the incessant creeping towards that magical age of 35). All three times I’ve been pregnant before, excepting the six wasted months when we were cluelessly using the spermicide called Astroglide, it’s happened in the first two months. And I once read somewhere that in two fertile people, with the right timing, the chance of conceiving is one in three. So, I know it seems silly to those of you that have waited years, but the passing of this mark seems somehow significant.
There is nothing to do but carry on and focus on how great everything else in life is. And so I will. If nothing happens in another three months, I will consider conferring with the doctor. I don’t know whether I’d ever even want to do anything if there is a problem, but I guess you never do know that until you’re faced with the situation.
I’m so sorry. I know what you mean about the spacing and the timing–it’s very frustrating.
Hoping next month is the one for you!
Darn. I was hoping for you.
I went through the same thing. Turned out I was ovulating earlier than I thought I was, and missing the magic window.
Try something different next month. Doesn’t have to be huge, but it gives you the sense of being proactive.
oh, I’m so sorry, Cat. I know there are so many mixed feelings in this.. and I don’t know what to say except –
Your little boy is a dream, and I should be so lucky as to have one as intelligent, sweet, and really fun as that.
And if you could make another one, he/she too would be a gift to the world.
But, if not, we’ll all still cherish #1.
I’m so sorry. This sucks.
I’m so sorry. The odds I’d heard were that two perfectly perfect people would still only have a 25% chance of conceiving in any given month.
I think you’ve got a good plan going forward — giving it a little more time (but not too much) and taking it one step at a time.
We spent over a year conceiving each of our pregnancies except the one three months after my first miscarriage. Aside: It would have been nice if my husband’s parents had warned us about their extensive family history of low sperm count and early andropause, but they are in deep denial and continue to ask questions like, “What’s wrong with your wife?” “What’s wrong with your cousin Mike’s wife?” “What’s wrong with your cousin Dave’s wife?” “Why did Bob’s wife Judy have to adopt?” I digress.
Save that one time, each time I’ve actually gotten pregnant was right after we had given up and made an appointment with a fertility clinic; we are an infertility cliche at this point, although beloved at the clinic for boosting their pregnancy stats. At any rate, for obvious reasons, we’re now over 35. And being older is okay. You’ve been pregnant three times; it will happen again. Probabilities aren’t guarantees; even if there is a 1/3 chance, lots of people have to try longer than three months to average out all the lucky bastards who succeed in the first or second month.
It is so hard not to fret. I hope you get pregnant soon and you can put aside those particular worries.
thinking of you
That’s crappy. Hmmph.
If it’s any comfort, with #1 I got pregnant on the 3rd month (age 30). With #2, I got pregnant on the *9th* month (age 33).
I do chalk some of it up to age … I saw a chart somewhere that shows the average time for getting pregnant as you get older … if it is 3 months at ages 20-25, it went up to 5 for 25-30, then 7-9 for 30-35, and 10-12 for over 35. Those aren’t exact numbers, but you get the idea; our fertility *gradually* as we age so it is very normal for a perfectly fertile 33 year old to take a few months longer than a 30 year old.
Anyway, hang in there! The day of getting my period was always the worst for me.
Darn. Sorry to hear it.
Bummer.
How is it that you POS at the same time you start your period? That must tell you that although your you have a LPD, there is something predictable there…meaning easier nut to crack, maybe?
Just a thought…why not confer with the doc now?…all of the factors you mentioned put you in a different category than the patient with no history. Just to see what the plan would be…and then you can still go back in 3 months.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr! Eggs! Sperm! Get it together!