Comments on: Well yes, actually, I did

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 00:02:04 +0000

Hmmm. I wonder if I was seeing more of your ambivilence than your obvious investment? I think I was responding to all of the qualifying in your posts. Alas, I was wrong.

A friend of mine had a misscarriage, then a pregnancy and was very careful about investing in the second one. She got pregnant a third time (after about 3 months of trying), and decided to throw caution to the winds and tell, tell, tell. At 9 weeks she found out there was’t an embryo, and she was on teh one hand circumspect taht her enthusiasm didn’t cause the misscarriage, but she felt so bad, on both fronts, that it was hard not to feel responsible for it. I think that there are all sorts of responses,and they all make sense.
Sarah

By: Day

Day — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 19:53:32 +0000

So sorry. I myself found subsequent miscarriages so much easier than the first – that first one was awful. The ones after that were less intense – they sucked, but were less devastating. I’m not entirely sure why. Nonetheless, the feeling of having earned the right for a “good” pregnancy is one I’m quite familiar with. I hope the next round goes far more smoothly for you.

By: Irish Girl

Irish Girl — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 12:46:08 +0000

Well, I’m glad you’re doing quite fine and that you’re able to acknowledge the little bit of anger too. All your feelings pre, intra, post are valid. I hope you get and stay pregnant easily very very soon.

By: sweetcoalminer

sweetcoalminer — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 05:20:07 +0000

I am sorry. I hope this was the end of your dues, and that next time is easier. That was all very hard and scary for you, too. It’s one thing to lose a baby, but another to be facing damage to your girl parts. I’m glad you’re not wholly traumatized.

By: Sam

Sam — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 05:00:57 +0000

I am so sorry, sweet Cat. You are allowed to grieve in any way and for however long you feel it. This is your blog, you whine and piss and moan and stomp your feet while you hold your breath if it helps.

And I’ll still be thinking of a recent comment that I read at Brooklyn Girl’s place: “I want to see your naked!”