I sent this one to Moxie back in October, but I guess she is backed up– the price of popularity– so I’m turning it over to my worthy readers!
Dear Internets,
My almost one year old thirteen month old son is home with a nanny
Monday-Thursday. Friday-Sunday, I always make an effort to get him out
of the house and to arrange play dates when possible. There aren’t a
lot of moms around here that I’ve connected with, but I recently met one with a son who is two months younger than mine, and we get along
well. (Actually, lest you think I have an actual potential local friend, she is a grandma taking care of her grandson but I didn’t think I needed to get into that with Moxie.)
We’ve gotten together three times now, once at my house
and twice at hers, and every time, my son cries hysterically (real
tears, bright red face, loud screams), on and off for the whole visit.
I can’t figure out why. He has no problems with other babies and
toddlers and this one is not doing anything aggressive or scary as far
as I can tell.
Any thoughts on what’s going on and what I can do to make the situation better? Or do I just need to accept that this is not a playdate that is going to work?
Thanks!
Cat
P.S. I’ve been avoiding this woman ever since October while I waited for an answer. Because I am all pathetic like that.
I’d try it one more time – his development and comfort levels have changed quite a bit since October!
Maybe change the setting? Have the next one at your house? Or a park – somewhere neutral and newish?
Good luck.
I’d try it one more time – his development and comfort levels have changed quite a bit since October!
Maybe change the setting? Have the next one at your house? Or a park – somewhere neutral and newish?
Good luck.
you may want to branch out your options. many libraries have story time specifically for kids gatito’s age and are held later in the day for working moms. mine was a great place to meet new people and kids for my son.
also next play date (if you have one) try a neutral place like a playground or the play area in your local mall.
you may want to branch out your options. many libraries have story time specifically for kids gatito’s age and are held later in the day for working moms. mine was a great place to meet new people and kids for my son.
also next play date (if you have one) try a neutral place like a playground or the play area in your local mall.
Doesn’t sound like there is a specific reason why it happened. Ainsley takes a few times of being around the same child to get familiar with them. When she begins to recognize their face, she is happy. Try it again. Don’t give up.
My K is fine with most people but can’t cope with anyone whose facial expressions are out of kilter with what they are feeling. As a baby this meant that she screamed whenever she saw B, an insecure friend trying to hard. She also tends to lose it around people with disabilities that severly effect their facial expressions. Now she is 3 I can talk to her about it which helps.